The 3 Inner Needs That'll Help You Start Putting Yourself First

One of the hardest patterns to break is putting others' needs over your own. And in some ways, that pattern does serve and protect us for a while, that is until we reach a breaking point-- and usually, that's when the pain of self abandonment and being breadcrumbed by others becomes too much to bear.

I know this experience all too well, and if you're still looping in this pattern too, I'm here to tell you that you can put an end to this--

You CAN be totally in touch with your needs at any one moment and not hesitate to express them,

You CAN feel safe, secure, and connected to yourself at all times...no matter what's happening around you,

And you can set the appropriate boundaries from a place of worthiness, when you know your needs are not being met, WITHOUT feeling guilty or resentful.

I'm going to tell you a hard truth--overgiving is NOT going to make them give you what you need in return. It's a recipe for breadcrumbing, aka giving you only enough "crumbs" in return so you don't decide to go and choose yourself instead.

It's the most painful thing to be caught in a cycle like this, and how you can stop it is to realize that whatever it is that you are wanting from someone else, give it to yourself instead. You deserve to have ALL your needs met. And you DO NOT have to wait for someone to come and give it to you.

My guess is you have already had enough of people not showing up for you, and it is time to come into your POWER. I was there too once, and I promise you that once you start truly taking care of your own inner needs, you won't need to go outside yourself and give away your power like this anymore.

Imagine how relationships would feel when they actually feel safe and nourishing...where you can be loved for who you truly are...all because you are already WHOLE. When you can meet your own needs, relationships actually add to your life more than they take away, because they become something you WANT, not NEED.

If you're resonating with this so far, my guess is that what you are truly desiring through these difficult relationships are actually unmet needs that you can provide from within yourself, like:

-the need to be fully seen: feeling safe to be your authentic self with someone else begins with how safe you feel to see all parts of yourself

-the need to be unconditionally loved: if you want someone to choose you and show up for you as much as you are for them, you must choose yourself first. Examining our self-abandoning behaviors is so crucial for cultivating an unbreakable bond with ourselves

-the need for connection: this need is actually 3 different needs (connection to self, other, and something bigger than self). It's true that we all have the need for connection to others but on a more spiritual level, we get to decide what QUALITY of connection we want to have with others. The most nourishing way to meet our need for connection to others is to develop healthy interdependence (ie. ability to meet your own needs, choose yourself, set boundaries, etc)

My upcoming digital course, Know Your Needs, will be ready for you on Oct 23 and will teach you all about how the simple power of awareness of your 25+ inner needs will help you to heal, nourish, and empower your self worth.

We all have physical, emotional, mental and spiritual needs that are required for us to feel whole, fully connected to ourselves, and not to mention are pre-requisites for creating the healthy, secure, and empowered relationships that you've only dreamed of.

I am so excited to bring this brand new audio course to you in just a couple weeks! Click here to join the waitlist and I'll send you an exclusive discount code when the course drops.